Heart Thoughts

March 2008

Leaving Behind Mistakes of the Past

Have you ever made a mistake in your life?

If you answered "yes" to the question, you shouldn't feel alone. Every human being on earth, and I repeat, every human being on earth has made and will make mistakes during their lifetime.

A mistake is an incorrect, unwise, or unfortunate act and/or decision, an error, or a misunderstanding. To act or believe as if you have never made a mistake in life is like saying you have never breathed in air, eaten food, or drank water.

Making a mistake is not the end of the world.

There are, however, varying degrees and levels and types of mistakes that can be made during one's lifetime.

When you make an error such as: misspelling a word, adding numbers incorrectly, or writing down the wrong order in a restaurant, these are everyday mistakes. They should not reflect directly on to your self-esteem.

Your childhood has impacted your inner critic.

If you were raised in a family where mistakes were not tolerated and you were punished, criticized, and shamed for even the smallest of mistakes, chances are you have matured into an adult that has developed an inner-critic that is exceptionally hard on your inner-beloved.

When you are hard on yourself for small mistakes, the by-product of this act can be stress and procrastination. "I am not going to build the fence, because I may not do it perfectly, and if it is not perfect I am going to be criticized by myself or someone else. But yet I know the fence needs to be built." Substitute anything you would like to accomplish or complete in your life for the phrase, "build the fence."

What is your fence to build?

For instance; "I am not going to be in a relationship, because I may not be perfect at it, and if I am not perfect in the relationship, I will be critical of myself. But yet I really want to be in a relationship."

Further substitute thoughts like, being a parent, being successful, doing what you really want to in life. What about being physically healthy, dancing, painting, playing an instrument, or building your dream home?

Now turn this statement inward and apply it to your heart.

"I am not going to be loving, happy, passionate, intimate, (etc.) because I may not do it perfectly and if I am not perfect at it I am going to be criticized by myself or someone else. But yet I really want to be loving, happy, passionate, and intimate." This thought process is crazy making, stressful, and paralyzing.

When your inner-critic insists on becoming the dominant and ruling voice inside your mind, beating you up relentlessly with its negativity, sometimes you just have to inwardly shout, "STOP IT! So what?

I have made mistakes in my past, some have been small and others may have felt huge. I have learned what I needed to learn from all the mistakes I have made in my life, but I am tired of living in the shadows of my past mistakes. I am ready to step into the brilliance of my Beloved!"

When you declare this from your authentic heart-self, a release will be felt at the very core of your being, followed by your heart saying, "Thank you!"

As you awaken to the fact that you are not your inner-critic and you are not that inner-voice that berates you incessantly, you can accept that you are so much more. Inside you and underneath this harsh voice is your beautiful beloved self.

The awakening to the inner-beloved is to understand that one's inner-critic is not who you actually are. Instead you are an incredible being, capable of loving deeply, supremely gifted with the ability of overcoming and healing the darkest pains and wounds created by your worst mistakes.

What shadows are you ready to release that have been cast and carried in your heart and mind from past mistakes?

Affirmation:

I am deeply connected to the intuition of my beloved and I listen to and follow my heart through all decisions in life.

In Love and Peace,
David Allen Jones

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