Heart News

January 2008

Life is calling... have you been disconnected?

Do you ever feel disconnected from life?

Have you felt disconnected at your job and found yourself inwardly asking in the middle of your workday, "What the heck am I doing here?"

How about in a relationship? Have you ever felt disconnected from your partner, even though you are in the same room with them?

Have you found yourself standing in your bathroom, looking at your own reflection in the mirror and saying to yourself, "Who is this person?" Then there is the thought/feeling below, in our unconsciousness, the one we can't quite put our finger on but we know is there. The one that quietly whispers from the back of your mind that says, "I haven't a clue of who or what I am becoming in this lifetime."

If you have ever, or are having these types of thoughts circling through your mind; know they are waiting to prey on your vulnerabilities. Feelings and thoughts of disconnection and separation prey on your vulnerable thoughts of happiness, oneness and connection.

How you will know these thoughts/feelings of disconnection have taken a hold of you is you may feel alone, separate, and depressed. Signs of disconnection from self can manifest all around you, your body is a great example.

Physical illness and disease are often results of disconnection and unhappiness. When your body is out of shape and under/overweight it is because you have become out of touch with its needs.

Extreme financial debt can be caused by emotional detachment and separation from your heart and mind. Today's technology is a huge contributor towards disconnection within family and community.

Listening to an IPod, surfing the web, or entranced by the big screen are all behaviours that we have been taught and convinced by the manufacturer's that these products will somehow make us happier. Overuse of technology separates us! Kids, three years old want IPods and computer games.

The damage technology is causing within the family unit is a decline in the understanding of the importance of interpersonal skills and creating great practitioners of isolation. Practitioners of isolation create communities where eye contact is infrequent, homelessness is rampant, and neighbours do not know their neighbours names.

If North America's population does not re-connect to It's Heart and change its current course, than in the next twenty years there is a great possibility obesity will become the largest health crisis facing our population and homelessness will be even more rampant.

And possibly no one will care because we will all be inside our house's, isolating ourselves from our neighbours in front of our latest "compu-ipod-evision!"

When an entire family lives from a place of connection and happiness, then there is never a desire for family members to spend isolated hours and hours separated from each other, while they concentrate on and interact with only their electronic devices.

A healthy and connected family makes it a priority to spend time with each other, they hug one another at least once a day, and meaningful conversation is an integral part of family life. Laughter, joy, and play are common place amongst a heart centered family.

In early December of 2007, San Diego County , in Southern California experienced devastating wildfires that burned thousands of homes to the ground. There were countless interviews of homeowners by the media, asking the homeowners who had to evacuate their home quickly, what they grabbed and took with them upon evacuation.

Most every homeowner said they grabbed family pictures, photo albums, and family mementos. Not once did I read or hear a homeowner say, "I grabbed my big screen television and home computer because I knew I couldn't live without them."

If it was to come right down to having everything stripped from you, what is the last thing you would give up? What is the most important commodity in your life? I have witnessed nine people pass from this world and into the next. Not once did one of them say to me, "I wish I would have spent more time with my electronics."

Instead, what each of them said to me, "I sure wish I would have made my family a priority and spent more time with them having fun and enjoying life." What allows us to easily forget about the importance of staying connected to family and friends until we are faced with a natural disaster or death is because we have largely become disconnected from our own hearts.

Based on how we spend our money and time, technology has passed up the value of humanity in our society. Our humanness has become second fiddle to "stuff."

This is a difficult truth to admit and many will want to resist the truth of this statement. But when one studies the behaviours of today's families and understands that the average child under eighteen spends seven hours per day with their e-devices.

Other studies have shown that the average family spends less than fifteen minutes of quality time together per day. Until these two statistics become equal with each other, or at the very least more in check with the other, we will continue to be a culture breeding disconnection from the happiness found in our hearts.

Has the time come for you to re-connect to your heart? If you could genuinely have more happiness in your life, would you want it? If you could feel better mentally, emotionally, and physically, would you really want to? Most people have a desire to feel better, but not the commitment.

"Free the Heart" will remind you of your inherent right to feel happy and connected to self, family, and community. The result is a feeling of oneness and unity. When one is connected to their loving inner-heart, self-esteem is raised, depression decreases, and physical health improves.

One way to re-connect to your inner-heart is through a "Free the Heart" workshop, I invite you to participate in an upcoming program near you.

In Love and Peace,
David Allen Jones

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