Heart News

November 2007

Healing The Inner Suffering Of The Heart

Free the Heart just completed its 207th workshop and the understanding of the importance of participating in the deep feeling of the healing work "Free the Heart" offers during its three days reminds me continuously of the relevance and necessity of experiencing this valuable work.

When you begin seeking emotional, mental, and physical health there is a belief held by some that all you need to do is think differently about a hurtful or painful emotional experience and the pain or issue will disappear.

This thought process and belief system is a profound form of denial. 

Many people love to learn about growth and healing, but to actually participate in the experience of healing can appear to be an unnecessary or daunting task. The thought of having to actually face painful emotions from your past can create an unconscious fear, and this fear can appear to be overwhelming.

This overwhelming unconscious fear is the biggest reason people never attempt to do their emotional healing work.

The reason it is easier to "learn" about growth and healing is because learning is a comfortable sensation confined to the linear thinking of the mind. 

Growth and healing are emotions and feelings connected to the heart, and experiencing the feeling of healing these emotions can be very uncomfortable.

It is a false delusional thought of security to believe that all you need to do to heal and improve yourself is to think and pray about the issue. Because most people have a basic desire to stay comfortable in their feelings, it is easy to be led to "think" you can heal your emotions by only changing your thoughts.

I recently read and highly recommend the book "At  Hell's Gate", by Claude Anshin Thomas, and Claude writes, "Without specific awareness of the intimate nature of our suffering, whatever that suffering may be, healing and transformation simply are not possible and we will continue to re-create that suffering and infect others with it."

Suffering is a painful or distressing experience that affects us mentally, emotionally, and physically. Until one is willing to embrace the intimate nature of one's distressing experiences, true transformation will only be a "thought" and not a reality.

How many of you have been infected by others unhealed suffering during your journey in life? Maybe you grew up with a parent who was seldom praised or complemented during their own childhood, which may have caused them to become very critical and condemning of you during your childhood.

And now you find yourself being harsh and discouraging in your behaviour towards your own children. If the behaviour is not stopped the infecting will continue, possibly for generations.

Another example of how one can continue to infect others with their unhealed pain is as follows; let's say one of your parents was sexually abused as a child and they have never healed the original "suffering" caused by such a traumatic experience/s.

They grow up and become your parent and they parent you through the pain of their suffering by being controlling, domineering, and violent.

This will in turn leave little room for you as a child to evolve into your "authentic self." So you grow up being taught and conditioned that your role in life is to put another's emotions and feelings ahead of your own.

When a parent steamrolls and flattens their child's heart and mind with their unhealed suffering, this child will grow up believing their role in relationships is to serve as a doormat for others to wipe their unhealed hurts and pains on.

If you have served or played the role of the doormat in a relationship, you understand how painful, draining, and humiliating this position can be.

When you do not have the opportunity to develop your authentic self as a child, you will replace this natural unfolding process by creating a false facade of authenticity. This "false facade" requires tremendous amounts of energy to deceptively portray you're real-self.

A person who projects a false facade will struggle mightily with intimacy, because to be intimate with another means giving up the disguise of concealment. When damaging emotional pain surrounds your heart you may fear others will see your inner pain. The unhealthy resulting behaviour of this thought process is to prevent anyone from getting close to your heart and mind.

When the basis and foundation of one's thoughts and actions is caused by the agony of suffering, then the resulting behaviour is to inflict suffering upon self and others. When one tires of either being inflicted or inflicting, then the healing and transformation of the heart can truly begin.

The starting point is feeling and understanding that there is an inner principle of love inside of you. This loving principle empowers you with the vigour to embrace the intimate nature of your suffering and heal it once and for all.

The existence of this inner power of love can heal all suffering. By giving yourself permission to feel your inner pain you automatically engage the principle of love to expel and drive out of you all emotions of suffering.  

By quieting your mind daily and affirming that the power of love is surrounding and embracing your inner suffering, transforming the darkness of the pain into the light of love produces healing and growth.

Give yourself this reverent action of unconditional love and you will behold the awakening of your inner Beloved.

Affirmation:
"My inner power of unconditional love is
strong, potent, and transformational.
I affirm joyously the compelling
energy of the principle of love."

Blessings,
David Allen Jones

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